Nothing beats a good chat with an old friend...no matter how much you THINK you don't need anyone...a friend....a true friend...can always brighten your day....
They always know how to make you smile and perhaps pee your pants with laughter. They will be there even when you think that they don't want to be...they do....
Friendship is so important. True friends are hard to find...but when you do...don't shut them out...because they may be just what you need to make your day...that much better
Hellllo Merchant...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
1.2.12
31.1.12
Day 31.
Rescue me..
Years ago I use to look for people to rescue me..help me all the time....not because I couldn't do it but because I didn't have enough trust in myself to. I played the sad fiddle...the poor me cards...some people took the bate....others did not...
I would get into a depression and look for anyone to explain to me why I shouldn't be there...because I didn't feel as though I was worth it, I needed reassurance. I would blame others for why I was there....they treated me badly...they were cruel hearted...and so on. It wasn't their fault at all....it was mine.
I thought I wasn't worth it....I thought I didn't deserve it.....they might have helped to plant those seeds in my head...but I made them grow and in reality...WHO ARE YOU to tell me I am worth it or not? WHO ARE YOU to think that you are better than me? Really WHO ARE YOU...step back....look in the mirror...what gives you the right to judge me?
Excuse the cliche but...who died and made you king? I'm worth it all right...I owe it to myself to have a life....and now to my kids..and later to someone who will love me....who died and made you king?
Be kind hearted ... don't judge .... and just LOVE yourself and the world and people around you...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
Years ago I use to look for people to rescue me..help me all the time....not because I couldn't do it but because I didn't have enough trust in myself to. I played the sad fiddle...the poor me cards...some people took the bate....others did not...
I would get into a depression and look for anyone to explain to me why I shouldn't be there...because I didn't feel as though I was worth it, I needed reassurance. I would blame others for why I was there....they treated me badly...they were cruel hearted...and so on. It wasn't their fault at all....it was mine.
I thought I wasn't worth it....I thought I didn't deserve it.....they might have helped to plant those seeds in my head...but I made them grow and in reality...WHO ARE YOU to tell me I am worth it or not? WHO ARE YOU to think that you are better than me? Really WHO ARE YOU...step back....look in the mirror...what gives you the right to judge me?
Excuse the cliche but...who died and made you king? I'm worth it all right...I owe it to myself to have a life....and now to my kids..and later to someone who will love me....who died and made you king?
Be kind hearted ... don't judge .... and just LOVE yourself and the world and people around you...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
30.1.12
Day 30.
Letting Go....
Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. Holding on is being brave but sometimes moving on make you even tougher...
Letting go of the negative....from a standpoint (resource found online)
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. Holding on is being brave but sometimes moving on make you even tougher...
Letting go of the negative....from a standpoint (resource found online)
The human mind is an incredible story teller. It can make a dramatic story out of the most ordinary situations in life. If you just sit for a while, without doing anything actively, you will notice the mind spinning stories about your past, your future and your present. The mind is particularly addicted to the past, because the past usually gives you a sense of “identity”. It’s difficult for most people to let go of their past because they derive a sense of who they are from it, which is inherently a dysfunctional state of being. Clinging to your past will ensure that your future carries the same “essence”, and your life appears to be moving in circles with nothing new or creative coming in. In this article we give you pointers and insights on how to let go of your past and allow life to bring up a refreshing future.
Stop Defining Yourself Based on Your Past
It’s an unconscious habit that you picked up as a child, you started defining yourself based on “what happened” to you. For example, if you got low marks in a class and were reprimanded for it, you might define yourself as being an average student or a failure. That’s how the mind works, it just labels everything including you. Most adults are still defining themselves based on what happened to them in the past. This is a highly dysfunctional way of living life, because life will bring you a reflection of what you think you are.
A new way of living, is to stop defining yourself at all. Why do you need to define yourself? There is no rule book which says that you need to define who you are to live your life. In fact, life moves on in a smooth manner when you don’t live in your past by defining yourself through the events that happened to you. Always die to this moment, which does not need any definition from you. You can just “be” without needing to “know” anything. Allow life to bring you the knowing as and when it’s needed.
Know Deeply that Life is Always This Moment
It’s so simple and yet most people don’t get it, that life is always just the “now”. There is no past or future in life, just this one moment called the now. Life is timeless; the mind creates time by going into memory or by projecting from memory. One can live surrendered to the now, and life will moves effortless forward bringing forth all the comfort and well-being that is needed for the body. Feel free to let go of your ghosts for they have no value in the now which is always fresh and new.
Nisargadatta Maharaj used to say “When you board a train, would you still carry your luggage on your head or would you rather put it down and enjoy the journey”. Sadly, most people don’t understand that life is “kinetic”, it’s always moving forward, it does not need your past stories and it does not need you to keep the burden of your past identity alive. Let go into the stream of life and it will take you places, you will find that life is never dull when you are not defining each moment from the past.
No Story, No Suffering
Adyashanti, a well known spiritual teacher, talks about the state of living free of the stories of the mind, and how it liberates the being from suffering. You have the choice to ignore the mind. You don’t have to give it attention every time it pops up with a story. Most people never exercise this choice and they just allow their mind to grab their attention with every thought that it creates. When you allow this happen, you are at the mercy of the mind, and thus you can never let go of the past because you keep renewing it with your attention.
Letting go of the mind and letting go of the past is essential the same thing. The mind inherently operates from the past. So how does one let go of the mind? It’s simple, stop paying attention to it no matter how cunningly it tries to grab your attention. The mind will try all types of strategies to get your attention, but if you simply stay in an alertness, you will not fall for it. With time, the mind will slow down, and become very silent. When you become free of the mind, you will also become free of your past and your stories about yourself. Life doesn’t need any stories to move forward.
In Conclusion
You have to ask yourself if you are willing to be “fresh” to life, if you are willing to let go of identities and stories. Most people want to let go of their past, but want to retain their identity which comes from the past – this is not possible. You have to let go of your identities, and be willing to come completely fresh to life, in a very innocent way. Life doesn’t need anything from you expect that you stay free of the “stories” and just let go into the stream of existence. When you live life this way, everyday will be fresh, and it will bring joy and abundance like you have never experienced before.
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
29.1.12
Day 29.
You don't have to prove to anyone that what you are saying is truth or fiction. If in your heart you know and believe it's true...that is all that matters...People may judge you and think they know who you are based on prejudice but at the end of the day...what you know in your heart is what matters.
They can call you down and make you feel poorly about yourself if you let them....IF you let them...so don't....They can call you a liar for a truth you are stating...but that doesn't matter because YOU know that you are telling the truth. They can make their own conclusion based on hearsay or not having all the facts...but at the end of the day...when all is said and done...the only person that can make you feel like you are not truthful to yourself is YOU...
There's trend here...to most my posts...it all starts and ends with you...be your own kind of beautiful...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
They can call you down and make you feel poorly about yourself if you let them....IF you let them...so don't....They can call you a liar for a truth you are stating...but that doesn't matter because YOU know that you are telling the truth. They can make their own conclusion based on hearsay or not having all the facts...but at the end of the day...when all is said and done...the only person that can make you feel like you are not truthful to yourself is YOU...
There's trend here...to most my posts...it all starts and ends with you...be your own kind of beautiful...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
28.1.12
Day 28.
Today, tomorrow and your yesterdays, let go of all the anger...the torment and the hurt that you or someone else has burdened you with. Amazing things will happen. Trust in yourself and know that it will all work out the way it is suppose to. Fate will lead you in. Know that some of the greats things in life...aren't really things at all...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
27.1.12
Day 27.
Never judge a book by it's cover...
As yesterday's post was much about judging yourself and others from their past I want you to also know...never to judge a book by it's cover...beauty is only skin deep as is compassion, love and kindness...these are all things you can't see at a first glance of the latest paperback or hard ass....opps I mean hard cover...
The world is becoming better at accepting differences, and personal style and expression. I mean years ago there was much more racism and prejudice...and sadly there still is more than needed...but like I said getting better...nothing happens overnight right?
As an artistic person I went through many fazes of "outer skin"...from all black clothing to baggy clothes to maybe too tight and revealing...but the end result was me...same as always no changes made. I was still polite and respected my elders, I still sang songs in the shower and I was still me...Heather...No matter what...if I decided to piece everything on my body that I possibly could and tattoo every inch...to dye my hair every color of the rainbow...I'd still be me...My cover might change...but the book I'm writing has not...the past chapters are still the same...only with more outer self expression.
You're not a thief because you wear baggy clothes and carry around bags...you're not a pot head because you listen to a musician that does it or because you hang out late at nights. You are an outer expression of yourself a canvas to create...to dress for success of your own mind....embrace it...and let no one take away your cover....
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
As yesterday's post was much about judging yourself and others from their past I want you to also know...never to judge a book by it's cover...beauty is only skin deep as is compassion, love and kindness...these are all things you can't see at a first glance of the latest paperback or hard ass....opps I mean hard cover...
The world is becoming better at accepting differences, and personal style and expression. I mean years ago there was much more racism and prejudice...and sadly there still is more than needed...but like I said getting better...nothing happens overnight right?
As an artistic person I went through many fazes of "outer skin"...from all black clothing to baggy clothes to maybe too tight and revealing...but the end result was me...same as always no changes made. I was still polite and respected my elders, I still sang songs in the shower and I was still me...Heather...No matter what...if I decided to piece everything on my body that I possibly could and tattoo every inch...to dye my hair every color of the rainbow...I'd still be me...My cover might change...but the book I'm writing has not...the past chapters are still the same...only with more outer self expression.
You're not a thief because you wear baggy clothes and carry around bags...you're not a pot head because you listen to a musician that does it or because you hang out late at nights. You are an outer expression of yourself a canvas to create...to dress for success of your own mind....embrace it...and let no one take away your cover....
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
26.1.12
Day 26.
Today's post is a bit of a ramble and may be a tad all over the place...but I hope you get my point.
Who are you? Really....who are you?
Your past helps determined that...there may be some things you wish you hadn't done...but without them would you really be who you are today?
Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind comes to mind when I think about my past...If someone can look at me and judge me for what I have done or gone through when I have already judged and ridiculed myself for those things then really they don't matter. Acceptance is the highest form of kindness that anyone can give...
I don't care who you are...where you come from...what you did...as long as you can right your wrongs and make peace then that's all I need to know.
People make mistakes...and should be given a second chance. Obviously if it continues to be a "mistake" it's not a mistake at all it's a sign of disrespect or misguidance and needs to be removed from your life until it's adjusted or corrected, but....in the end...we are all human...all looking for someone to love us for who we are...and for our past as well....because...well....that's who we are...
You must learn to accept yourself and your past....before anyone else can...remember that.
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
Who are you? Really....who are you?
Your past helps determined that...there may be some things you wish you hadn't done...but without them would you really be who you are today?
Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind comes to mind when I think about my past...If someone can look at me and judge me for what I have done or gone through when I have already judged and ridiculed myself for those things then really they don't matter. Acceptance is the highest form of kindness that anyone can give...
I don't care who you are...where you come from...what you did...as long as you can right your wrongs and make peace then that's all I need to know.
People make mistakes...and should be given a second chance. Obviously if it continues to be a "mistake" it's not a mistake at all it's a sign of disrespect or misguidance and needs to be removed from your life until it's adjusted or corrected, but....in the end...we are all human...all looking for someone to love us for who we are...and for our past as well....because...well....that's who we are...
You must learn to accept yourself and your past....before anyone else can...remember that.
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
24.1.12
Day 25.
I want to share with you a quote, since yesterday's post I have been thinking a lot about chances, and what taking them means to me. There is a quote I like that refers to chances that I love and never read to much into it until now...
You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take. ~Wayne Gretzky
Chances are risks you take, not risks given...you have to make the choice to take the shot...sometimes you miss and sometimes you don't but without taking the chance...you lose out all together. Dreams are chances...full of risks, and hope. They don't always come true but reaching for them makes life worth living. There's something I have always wanted to do...and soon I'm gonna take that chance....to make something more of myself...for me...
Imagine all the shots I've missed so far because I didn't even try...amazing...to think what trying would have done...
I want to make another note on today's post and this note is special...because last night and today I was honoured...last night and today I was blessed and proven that THIS BLOG...this very blog...is doing what it's purpose serves...not just for me...but for others.
I had the opportunity to reach out to someone...and they felt the need to reach out to me. This blog has been keeping them positive...or at least it's where they go to get positive thinking started. It may not always get you right to positive at the moment but it makes you think and rethink your ups and downs.
I was so TRULY amazed that this was happening...someone felt as though I was who they could talk to...who they could reach out to....and this someone may not know it...but in doing that...they helped me...they put a little more positivity in my world...They blessed it without knowing. I'm so grateful...
What an amazing person they are...stronger than they know...braver...more beautiful...I wish them "enough" I wish that they let fate take them to a beautiful life. I wish that they learn the lesson I learned last night...that it just goes to show you...hard work and positivity can really change the world...and make a difference in someones life...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take. ~Wayne Gretzky
Chances are risks you take, not risks given...you have to make the choice to take the shot...sometimes you miss and sometimes you don't but without taking the chance...you lose out all together. Dreams are chances...full of risks, and hope. They don't always come true but reaching for them makes life worth living. There's something I have always wanted to do...and soon I'm gonna take that chance....to make something more of myself...for me...
Imagine all the shots I've missed so far because I didn't even try...amazing...to think what trying would have done...
I want to make another note on today's post and this note is special...because last night and today I was honoured...last night and today I was blessed and proven that THIS BLOG...this very blog...is doing what it's purpose serves...not just for me...but for others.
I had the opportunity to reach out to someone...and they felt the need to reach out to me. This blog has been keeping them positive...or at least it's where they go to get positive thinking started. It may not always get you right to positive at the moment but it makes you think and rethink your ups and downs.
I was so TRULY amazed that this was happening...someone felt as though I was who they could talk to...who they could reach out to....and this someone may not know it...but in doing that...they helped me...they put a little more positivity in my world...They blessed it without knowing. I'm so grateful...
What an amazing person they are...stronger than they know...braver...more beautiful...I wish them "enough" I wish that they let fate take them to a beautiful life. I wish that they learn the lesson I learned last night...that it just goes to show you...hard work and positivity can really change the world...and make a difference in someones life...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
Day 24.
Here's an insert from a book...
“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
I thought about this one for a while when I read it...I liked it...it seemed like it was saying something to relate to me but I wasn't quite sure what...I knew I liked it...just had to think deeper.
I'm never alone...and when I am I force myself to be busy...so I'm not left with my thoughts...I surround myself these days with positive people but at the end of the day I'm still not sure who I am...I don't give myself time to be lonely. I don't let myself fall into the human experience. I have to though, in order to heal...be alone...with my thoughts...find out who I am and what I'm really searching for. I know a little bit of what I want. But scared to take those chances to get it...why...why am I so comfortable with using another person's body or emotions as a scratching post.....chances....there's a thought...I always leave it up to fate...which I probably always will but...what's wrong with mixing some chances in there too?
Chances?.....
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
I thought about this one for a while when I read it...I liked it...it seemed like it was saying something to relate to me but I wasn't quite sure what...I knew I liked it...just had to think deeper.
I'm never alone...and when I am I force myself to be busy...so I'm not left with my thoughts...I surround myself these days with positive people but at the end of the day I'm still not sure who I am...I don't give myself time to be lonely. I don't let myself fall into the human experience. I have to though, in order to heal...be alone...with my thoughts...find out who I am and what I'm really searching for. I know a little bit of what I want. But scared to take those chances to get it...why...why am I so comfortable with using another person's body or emotions as a scratching post.....chances....there's a thought...I always leave it up to fate...which I probably always will but...what's wrong with mixing some chances in there too?
Chances?.....
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
23.1.12
Day 23.
“The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good.”
Honestly...how amazing does it feel to do something for someone out of the kindness of your heart and know that you want and will get nothing in return. It feels amazing for me...and satisfying. I love helping others whether it's someone whose car broke down or giving an extra few cents to the lady ahead of me riffling through her purse to find 3 cents because she doesn't want to break her 20.00. Either way I'm left with a humble feeling...like I have restored someones believe in humanity again.
But I also want to leave you with another thought....
What satisfaction does it give you when you do something to someone to purposely make them feel inadequate, like making fun of someones misfortune, or by taking something from them you don't even care for only to let them go without...like the last piece of chocolate cake...you didn't want it...you just didn't want someone else you were angry with to have it....
How long does that satisfaction last? Or does it? Life isn't about taking...it's about giving...depriving others of something you could do to make their life better at no risk to you is not gratitude and if it is...trust me....it's short lived...
Do something amazing today for a perfect stranger...see how good it feels and I'm sure they will pay it forward and do something kind for someone else...give to those you have been taking from....out of spite, jealousy or hurtful grudging...it's not worth your soul...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter....xo
22.1.12
Day 22.
“Things don't go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.”
This goes hand in hand with yesterday's post...well sort of. How many times in your life have you been disappointed with the outcome of something. Broke your heart or spirits? And how many times have you bounced back...becoming stronger and braver and more than you were before.
Everyone's book is written differently...some is easier than others to read or follow...but each life experience makes you who you are...creates the amazing person that you have become. Each page written creates a you that no one else can copy and that YOU cannot hide, try as you might...one day your gonna stand up and be YOU under that cape you wear. No one can mask you but yourself and no one can unleash you either...just you...be proud of the book you have...its an original, an amazing adventure full of ups and downs...and there's still sooooo much more to be written.
And Remember : Being down doesn't last forever and neither does the hurt. Once you understand where and why...it's that much easier. This leads me back to fate...something I feel sooo strongly about. It works in ways no one could ever imagine.
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
This goes hand in hand with yesterday's post...well sort of. How many times in your life have you been disappointed with the outcome of something. Broke your heart or spirits? And how many times have you bounced back...becoming stronger and braver and more than you were before.
Everyone's book is written differently...some is easier than others to read or follow...but each life experience makes you who you are...creates the amazing person that you have become. Each page written creates a you that no one else can copy and that YOU cannot hide, try as you might...one day your gonna stand up and be YOU under that cape you wear. No one can mask you but yourself and no one can unleash you either...just you...be proud of the book you have...its an original, an amazing adventure full of ups and downs...and there's still sooooo much more to be written.
And Remember : Being down doesn't last forever and neither does the hurt. Once you understand where and why...it's that much easier. This leads me back to fate...something I feel sooo strongly about. It works in ways no one could ever imagine.
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
21.1.12
Day 21.
We cannot adjust the wind...but we can direct the sails...
There's so much meaning I take from this quote...it's going on my children's walls one day. So they can ready it everyday and one day get something our of it when trouble comes their way.
Really think about it...life hands you situations you can't always control happening...like a breakup...but it's how you deal with them that makes all the difference...you can give up...letting yourself fall into the storm and depression...or you can adjust the sails, pulling yourself out and away from what could be a bad situation and find another path to happiness.
Maybe it's finding yourself...going on a path following which ever way the wind leads you...being directed by someone else until you learn...your going into merky water and in a destructive path that would potentially damage who you are...or damaging your boat and effecting how your boat will sail for the rest of your life's journey. It's time for you to take control of that...use it...change the direction of your sails...turn and make the right adjustments to keep you on a path you choose for yourself...not that the wind has chosen for you...
Adjust your sails...to suit yourself in all and any of lifes situations...make the journey an amazing one...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
There's so much meaning I take from this quote...it's going on my children's walls one day. So they can ready it everyday and one day get something our of it when trouble comes their way.
Really think about it...life hands you situations you can't always control happening...like a breakup...but it's how you deal with them that makes all the difference...you can give up...letting yourself fall into the storm and depression...or you can adjust the sails, pulling yourself out and away from what could be a bad situation and find another path to happiness.
Maybe it's finding yourself...going on a path following which ever way the wind leads you...being directed by someone else until you learn...your going into merky water and in a destructive path that would potentially damage who you are...or damaging your boat and effecting how your boat will sail for the rest of your life's journey. It's time for you to take control of that...use it...change the direction of your sails...turn and make the right adjustments to keep you on a path you choose for yourself...not that the wind has chosen for you...
Adjust your sails...to suit yourself in all and any of lifes situations...make the journey an amazing one...
Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo
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