Day 31.

Rescue me..

Years ago I use to look for people to rescue me..help me all the time....not because I couldn't do it but because I didn't have enough trust in myself to.   I played the sad fiddle...the poor me cards...some people took the bate....others did not...

I would get into a depression and look for anyone to explain to me why I shouldn't be there...because I didn't feel as though I was worth it,  I needed reassurance.  I would blame others for why I was there....they treated me badly...they were cruel hearted...and so on.  It wasn't their fault at all....it was mine. 

I thought I wasn't worth it....I thought I didn't deserve it.....they might have helped to plant those seeds in my head...but I made them grow and in reality...WHO ARE YOU to tell me I am worth it or not?  WHO ARE YOU to think that you are better than me?  Really  WHO ARE YOU...step back....look in the mirror...what gives you the right to judge me?

Excuse the cliche but...who died and made you king?    I'm worth it all right...I owe it to myself to have a life....and now to my kids..and later to someone who will love me....who died and made you king?

Be kind hearted ...  don't judge .... and just LOVE yourself and the world and people around you...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 30.

Letting Go....

Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed.  Holding on is being brave but sometimes moving on make you even tougher...

Letting go of the negative....from a standpoint (resource found online)

The human mind is an incredible story teller. It can make a dramatic story out of the most ordinary situations in life. If you just sit for a while, without doing anything actively, you will notice the mind spinning stories about your past, your future and your present. The mind is particularly addicted to the past, because the past usually gives you a sense of “identity”. It’s difficult for most people to let go of their past because they derive a sense of who they are from it, which is inherently a dysfunctional state of being. Clinging to your past will ensure that your future carries the same “essence”, and your life appears to be moving in circles with nothing new or creative coming in. In this article we give you pointers and insights on how to let go of your past and allow life to bring up a refreshing future.

Stop Defining Yourself Based on Your Past

It’s an unconscious habit that you picked up as a child, you started defining yourself based on “what happened” to you. For example, if you got low marks in a class and were reprimanded for it, you might define yourself as being an average student or a failure. That’s how the mind works, it just labels everything including you. Most adults are still defining themselves based on what happened to them in the past. This is a highly dysfunctional way of living life, because life will bring you a reflection of what you think you are.

A new way of living, is to stop defining yourself at all. Why do you need to define yourself? There is no rule book which says that you need to define who you are to live your life. In fact, life moves on in a smooth manner when you don’t live in your past by defining yourself through the events that happened to you. Always die to this moment, which does not need any definition from you. You can just “be” without needing to “know” anything. Allow life to bring you the knowing as and when it’s needed.

Know Deeply that Life is Always This Moment

It’s so simple and yet most people don’t get it, that life is always just the “now”. There is no past or future in life, just this one moment called the now. Life is timeless; the mind creates time by going into memory or by projecting from memory. One can live surrendered to the now, and life will moves effortless forward bringing forth all the comfort and well-being that is needed for the body. Feel free to let go of your ghosts for they have no value in the now which is always fresh and new.

Nisargadatta Maharaj used to say “When you board a train, would you still carry your luggage on your head or would you rather put it down and enjoy the journey”. Sadly, most people don’t understand that life is “kinetic”, it’s always moving forward, it does not need your past stories and it does not need you to keep the burden of your past identity alive. Let go into the stream of life and it will take you places, you will find that life is never dull when you are not defining each moment from the past.

No Story, No Suffering

Adyashanti, a well known spiritual teacher, talks about the state of living free of the stories of the mind, and how it liberates the being from suffering. You have the choice to ignore the mind. You don’t have to give it attention every time it pops up with a story. Most people never exercise this choice and they just allow their mind to grab their attention with every thought that it creates. When you allow this happen, you are at the mercy of the mind, and thus you can never let go of the past because you keep renewing it with your attention.

Letting go of the mind and letting go of the past is essential the same thing. The mind inherently operates from the past. So how does one let go of the mind? It’s simple, stop paying attention to it no matter how cunningly it tries to grab your attention. The mind will try all types of strategies to get your attention, but if you simply stay in an alertness, you will not fall for it. With time, the mind will slow down, and become very silent. When you become free of the mind, you will also become free of your past and your stories about yourself. Life doesn’t need any stories to move forward.

In Conclusion

You have to ask yourself if you are willing to be “fresh” to life, if you are willing to let go of identities and stories. Most people want to let go of their past, but want to retain their identity which comes from the past – this is not possible. You have to let go of your identities, and be willing to come completely fresh to life, in a very innocent way. Life doesn’t need anything from you expect that you stay free of the “stories” and just let go into the stream of existence. When you live life this way, everyday will be fresh, and it will bring joy and abundance like you have never experienced before.

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 29.

You don't have to prove to anyone that what you are saying is truth or fiction.  If in your heart you know and believe it's true...that is all that matters...People may judge you and think they know who you are based on prejudice but at the end of the day...what you know in your heart is what matters.

They can call you down and make you feel poorly about yourself if you let them....IF you let them...so don't....They can call you a liar for a truth you are stating...but that doesn't matter because YOU know that you are telling the truth.  They can make their own conclusion based on hearsay or not having all the facts...but at the end of the day...when all is said and done...the only person that can make you feel like you are not truthful to yourself is YOU...

There's trend here...to most my posts...it all starts and ends with you...be your own kind of beautiful...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 28.

Today, tomorrow and your yesterdays, let go of all the anger...the torment and the hurt that you or someone else has burdened you with.  Amazing things will happen.  Trust in yourself and know that it will all work out the way it is suppose to.  Fate will lead you in.  Know that some of the greats things in life...aren't really things at all...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 27.

Never judge a book by it's cover...

As yesterday's post was much about judging yourself and others from their past I want you to also know...never to judge a book by it's cover...beauty is only skin deep as is compassion, love and kindness...these are all things you can't see at a first glance of the latest paperback or hard ass....opps I mean hard cover...

The world is becoming better at accepting differences, and personal style and expression.  I mean years ago there was much more racism and prejudice...and sadly there still is more than needed...but like I said getting better...nothing happens overnight right?

As an artistic person I went through many fazes of "outer skin"...from all black clothing to baggy clothes to maybe too tight and revealing...but the end result was me...same as always no changes made.  I was still polite and respected my elders, I still sang songs in the shower and I was still me...Heather...No matter what...if I decided to piece everything on my body that I possibly could and tattoo every inch...to dye my hair every color of the rainbow...I'd still be me...My cover might change...but the book I'm writing has not...the past chapters are still the same...only with more outer self expression.

You're not a thief because you wear baggy clothes and carry around bags...you're not a pot head because you listen to a musician that does it or because you hang out late at nights.  You are an outer expression of yourself a canvas to create...to dress for success of your own mind....embrace it...and let no one take away your cover....

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 26.

Today's post is a bit of a ramble and may be a tad all over the place...but I hope you get my point.

Who are you?  Really....who are you?

Your past helps determined that...there may be some things you wish you hadn't done...but without them would you really be who you are today?

Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind comes to mind when I think about my past...If someone can look at me and judge me for what I have done or gone through when I have already judged and ridiculed myself for those things then really they don't matter.  Acceptance is the highest form of kindness that anyone can give...

I don't care who you are...where you come from...what you did...as long as you can right your wrongs and make peace then that's all I need to know.

People make mistakes...and should be given a second chance.  Obviously if it continues to be a "mistake" it's not a mistake at all it's a sign of disrespect or misguidance and needs to be removed from your life until it's adjusted or corrected, but....in the end...we are all human...all looking for someone to love us for who we are...and for our past as well....because...well....that's who we are...

You must learn to accept yourself and your past....before anyone else can...remember that.


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 25.

I want to share with you a quote, since yesterday's post I have been thinking a lot about chances, and what taking them means to me.  There is a quote I like that refers to chances that I love and never read to much into it until now...

You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take.  ~Wayne Gretzky


Chances are risks you take, not risks given...you have to make the choice to take the shot...sometimes you miss and sometimes you don't but without taking the chance...you lose out all together.  Dreams are chances...full of risks, and hope.  They don't always come true but reaching for them makes life worth living.  There's something I have always wanted to do...and soon I'm gonna take that chance....to make something more of myself...for me...

Imagine all the shots I've missed so far because I didn't even try...amazing...to think what trying would have done...


I want to make another note on today's post and this note is special...because last night and today I was honoured...last night and today I was blessed and proven that THIS BLOG...this very blog...is doing what it's purpose serves...not just for me...but for others.


I had the opportunity to reach out to someone...and they felt the need to reach out to me.  This blog has been keeping them positive...or at least it's where they go to get positive thinking started.  It may not always get you right to positive at the moment but it makes you think and rethink your ups and downs.  


I was so TRULY amazed that this was happening...someone felt as though I was who they could talk to...who they could reach out to....and this someone may not know it...but in doing that...they helped me...they put a little more positivity in my world...They blessed it without knowing.  I'm so grateful...


What an amazing person they are...stronger than they know...braver...more beautiful...I wish them "enough"  I wish that they let fate take them to a beautiful life.  I wish that they learn the lesson I learned last night...that it just goes to show you...hard work and positivity can really change the world...and make a difference in someones life...


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 24.

Here's an insert from a book...


“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” 
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


I thought about this one for a while when I read it...I liked it...it seemed like it was saying something to relate to me but I wasn't quite sure what...I knew I liked it...just had to think deeper.


I'm never alone...and when I am I force myself to be busy...so I'm not left with my thoughts...I surround myself these days with positive people but at the end of the day I'm still not sure who I am...I don't give myself time to be lonely.  I don't let myself fall into the human experience.  I have to though, in order to heal...be alone...with my thoughts...find out who I am and what I'm really searching for.  I know a little bit of what I want.  But scared to take those chances to get it...why...why am I so comfortable with using another person's body or emotions as a scratching post.....chances....there's a thought...I always leave it up to fate...which I probably always will but...what's wrong with mixing some chances in there too?


Chances?.....


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 23.

“The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good.”


Honestly...how amazing does it feel to do something for someone out of the kindness of your heart and know that you want and will get nothing in return.  It feels amazing for me...and satisfying.   I love helping others whether it's someone whose car broke down or giving an extra few cents to the lady ahead of me riffling through her purse to find 3 cents because she doesn't want to break her 20.00.  Either way I'm left with a humble feeling...like I have restored someones believe in humanity again.


But I also want to leave you with another thought....


What satisfaction does it give you when you do something to someone to purposely make them feel inadequate, like making fun of someones misfortune, or by taking something from them you don't even care for only to let them go without...like the last piece of chocolate cake...you didn't want it...you just didn't want someone else you were angry with to have it....
How long does that satisfaction last? Or does it?  Life isn't about taking...it's about giving...depriving others of something you could do to make their life better at no risk to you is not gratitude and if it is...trust me....it's short lived...


Do something amazing today for a perfect stranger...see how good it feels and I'm sure they will pay it forward and do something kind for someone else...give to those you have been taking from....out of spite, jealousy or hurtful grudging...it's not worth your soul...


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter....xo

Day 22.

“Things don't go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.” 


This goes hand in hand with yesterday's post...well sort of.  How many times in your life have you been disappointed with the outcome of something.  Broke your heart or spirits?  And how many times have you bounced back...becoming stronger and braver and more than you were before.  


Everyone's book is written differently...some is easier than others to read or follow...but each life experience makes you who you are...creates the amazing person that you have become. Each page written creates a you that no one else can copy and that YOU cannot hide, try as you might...one day your gonna stand up and be YOU under that cape you wear.  No one can mask you but yourself and no one can unleash you either...just you...be proud of the book you have...its an original, an amazing adventure full of ups and downs...and there's still sooooo much more to be written.


And Remember : Being down doesn't last forever and neither does the hurt.  Once you understand where and why...it's that much easier.  This leads me back to fate...something I feel sooo strongly about.  It works in ways no one could ever imagine.


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 21.

We cannot adjust the wind...but we can direct the sails...

There's so much meaning I take from this quote...it's going on my children's walls one day.  So they can ready it everyday and one day get something our of it when trouble comes their way.

Really think about it...life hands you situations you can't always control happening...like a breakup...but it's how you deal with them that makes all the difference...you can give up...letting yourself fall into the storm and depression...or you can adjust the sails, pulling yourself out and away from what could be a bad situation and find another path to happiness.

Maybe it's finding yourself...going on a path following which ever way the wind leads you...being directed by someone else until you learn...your going into merky water and in a destructive path that would potentially damage who you are...or damaging your boat and effecting how your boat will sail for the rest of your life's journey.  It's time for you to take control of that...use it...change the direction of your sails...turn and make the right adjustments to keep you on a path you choose for yourself...not that the wind has chosen for you...

Adjust your sails...to suit yourself in all and any of lifes situations...make the journey an amazing one...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 20.

Questions....

A few people have been asking me a lot of questions about myself lately...it's hard to answer some and easy to answer others...

How are you?  Ohhh  I've had better days...or Oh I'm doing great today thanks for asking

What you plan on doing this week coming?  I'm not sure...don't plan too far a head these days...

What are you doing with your life?  What do you want?  .......

That....that one question...gets me every time....

In the past 20 days I have been doing some heavy soul searching...and trust me some days I feel like I'm getting no where fast.  Some days I feel like I'm making headway but not sure which direction I'm going in.  

Being lost is a scary feeling...one most don't like...I'm one of those most.  As kids when we are lost we are told to stay where we are until someone finds us...as adults in the path of life....if we get lost...we need to find our own way.  Something that takes time, patience, strength and persistence.  

I'm really lost...I don't know who I am...but I know where I want to go...to find ME again...so I'm gonna keep walking and hope I can find myself somewhere, someday...

Peace, Luck, Love & Laughter...xo

Day 19.

When it's just you....

and the world seems like it has shut the door on you...do you give up.......on it........on yourself.........on everything?

There's been a few times I've done this...I have turned to bottles, to meds, to a lot of things I'm not proud of...I'm ready to look in the mirror now after this short journey I'm still traveling on and say "I can do this...I WILL do this..."  alone or with support by my side......I will...I've done it before and I will do it again each time getting stronger and using less things to lose my focus on what life is really about.

The world may seem like it has shut the door, but it's not locked.  Even if it is...and the key is lost...it's not lost forever....there are other ways to open that door, to break back into the world....don't count me out yet...I'm still on my way.

I am full of sorrow when I say I chose the other day to beat the door down with a bottle...as we all know...bottles don't break doors...doors break bottles and bottles break spirits when you are drowning in your own self pitty...you might not even know you are (I didn't, which just goes to show I'm not healed yet) until you access it and it takes control.

I moved a step backwards but just because I stepped back does not mean I can no longer walk forwards again.  I will take longer strides to get back on track...I think in realizing what I have done...I'm already half way back....

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 18.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say....this is soooo important. because what you say can effect who hears it forever.  It can change the way they think about you...the way they look at the world...or even the way you think about yourself.

EVERYONE does it.  Once in a while...in the heat of the moment...someone says something they wish they could take back.  But the fact of the matter is you can't.  They can choose to write it in sand and let it be forgiven, but it will never be taken back.  And if you persist to say things you don't mean, as many times as they write it in the sand to forgive you...they will grow tired.  The will maybe choose not to place you into their house of cards once your words have knocked it down once again.

Children are SUCH a big part of this.  They are like sponges. Their minds remember EVERYTHING! Sometimes it's not even something worth remembering.  But they will.  When you say something to a child or that a child over hears it changes their outlook on the world.  Their outlook on you.  They are looking to you for guidance to be a role model.  A mentor.  Show them what a good human being is...what it is to love one another...to nurture.  They are looking for safeness, support, and acceptance.  Don't use words that could alter what a beautiful life they could grow up to have...it's the one thing to look forward to in life for a child...growing up...

Peace, Luck, Love & Laughter...xo

Day 17.

"Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted."

- Albert Einstein

Think about that quote for a moment...what do you think of when you read it...it's deep...for me anyways...I use to think money mattered because it made life simpler, I use to think that possessions and having nice things mattered....don't get me wrong, both these things do go nicely in life but without them...I am just as happy.  My family can't be counted...per say...but they are everything.

If my house burnt down with everything in it...and all I stood in was bare feet and a bathrobe (and even if that was gone it would be fine...only I'm trying to save you all some uncomfortable images) and all I had in my arms was my two children...I'd be fine,  I would have no money, not nice furniture, no heat no power, nothing but love.  I'd be ok because I'd still have a reason to wake up every morning...I'd still have my happy place to go...I'd still have everything that counts...and actually...I CAN count them...one....two....and their toes...one...two...three.................ten. :)

Life is about the little moments...the little smiles...the little countless things...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 16.

Actions speak louder than words....

Some of the greatest inspiration and wises wisdom comes from people who remain unknown 

I love this saying...it really says it all...

Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Thoughts become words...really they do...have you ever noticed when your emotions take over and you just BLURT out whatever it is you are thinking....sometimes it's good like "I love you so much" and sometimes its bad like "I hate you"....(which reminds me...I wish that word did not exist in the English language)  and sometimes its funny or odd like "I wonder if squirrels store their nutted poop like they do their real nut gatherings"

Those words then become your actions...usually after an "I love you" there is a hug a kiss or some other sign of affection which draws you to have more feelings for that person...after an "I ***e you" (sigh) after one of those you either lash out in more anger or continue with a few more choice words...

These then snowball into habits....but here's the key, only if you are allowed to...the other person receiving the compliment or negativity has the option to accept or remove it from their life...if it's reciprocated it is then forced into habit....letting a negative comment towards you or someone you love slip by on "accident" (which reminds me again I believe there are no accidents only lessons learned) this allows the person doing it to force habit...habits are very easy to attain but very hard to break...I know this for a fact...I am a long time nail biter...kicked it a few times and always went back....

These habits then develop who you are....they become your character...and that shows the world who you are...hard to break and becomes a lifestyle...your.....destiny....

Don't let your destiny be full of people who are hurtful or harmful...and most defiantly don't be one of those people yourself...do yourself a favor and watch your thoughts, your words, your actions, your habits, your character, and your destiny...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 15.

Today, I am happy...my life has been getting more organized, more mentally stable and more focused.

Today I want to tell you what happiness is to me...and want you to share a few things that make you happy.

Happiness can be given to you in an instant....and no one can take it away...just find those people, places and things (or as my English teacher would say NOUNS) that make you happy and go to that place in your heart...this is where eternal happiness comes from...I promise...once you find out what makes you happy...you never have to be sad...I've been learning this and it really works.

Happiness is....a walk at night...when the sky is clear on a gravel path, where the only sound I hear is the wind though the trees, the gravel underfoot and the sound of myself breathing.  The smell of still chilled air though my nose and into your lungs makes me calm...the starry sky full of angels watching over each and every one of us brings me peace.  Sometimes I like to just stop...lay down..and stare, smell, listen...

Happiness is....a beach, with warm breeze blowing my hair, salty sea kissing my face as the waves crash, soft sand massaging my feet and tickling my toes...Jumping through the waves as the cool water hits my skin...feeling like a kid again...careless, carefree....climbing on rocks to find a flat one to sit, watch the birds flying and diving, smelling the water, feeling the spray,  and hearing the waves crash (it's really no wonder they make cds with this stuff on it) there's nothing quite like it...

Happiness is...my camera...capturing a shot, a moment, that could escape the memory at any moment until it's frozen still forever, hearing the laughter of the child in front of it, or feeling the joy in the persons heart as they look into the eyes of their newborn...something I can see them doing but they could never watch themselves.  Capturing the last moments loved ones spend with one another before their journey on earth has ended...or making someone look at themselves the way I see them...a work of art...a unique beauty, and individual and seeing joy as they realize what I've seen to begin with....

Happiness is...the laughter of my growing older little girl and my not so little, little boy.  The sparkle that hits there eyes as they realize something amazing in the world.  The excitement they gather, the warmth from their hearts...the kisses from their little lips and the hugs from their tiny hands and arms...the small I love you's they say as I tuck them in tight...or just because....

These are just a few of mine...There are many places I could go to find happiness....I hope if you think long enough you have a large list as well.  This life gives us so much to be grateful for...use it...implement it in your daily lives, and let it keep you happy.

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 14.

It is what it is....

The gifts and blessings you are given in life are more often seen.  Not many times when something is done or happens to us that is nice do we go without noticing.  At those moments we take it for what it is.  Never questioning.

When something ill-fated happens to us we ponder on why good things happen to bad people...or why me what did I do to deserve this....a lot of people also work off Karma thinking that they have done something to someone that the are being punished.  I know for a fact now...that when bad things happen...it's to build you...build your character.  To "see what you are made of..." 


A lot of times we choose the path we take in life but when something obstructs your path like an obstacle, you then can choose two things....to cry why me...OR to accept it for what it is and find a solution.  You may be on that path a long time trying to figure it out...or you may have realized that you need to go back to walk back and take another route or revisit and old path but in the end you will receive a reward.  Maybe it's something good that has been done for you....maybe it's a blessing in disguise or maybe it's just self reward that you have gotten through something, become stronger and have proven to yourself if no one else that YOU CAN.

There really is nothing better than knowing you have done what you believe in your heart is right and accomplishing something you never thought possible!

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 13.

Today is Friday the 13th.  How do you see today?  Is this as a lucky day or an unlucky day....?

I see it as a good day...not because of the number and the day it falls on...but because it's one more day I have been blessed to have.

One more day I was able to wake up and hear my children's giggles...see their smiling faces, and one more day to make a positive change in my life and the people around me.

Every day I now wake up with a purpose, to live each day as if it's my last, never doing anything to regret it and always being thankful that it has been given to me.  Friday the 13th or Tuesday the 27th....no matter what the day...I'm thankful...

For those of you that see this day as being bad luck...make your own luck...look for the positive through the negative things that happen to you today and move on...write your worries in the sand and your happiness on a stone...tuck it in your pocket and carry it with you all day.  You were given this life to make it your own...so make it something you will be proud of!

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 12.

Today I want to let you know what is VERY important to me...what makes all the difference to everyone around me and what costs me nothing to give...it's my most valuable possession... 


"A SMILE costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he can not be made rich by it. A smile creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign of friendship. It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature's best antidote for trouble. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give."


Peace, Luck, Love & Laughter...xo

Day 11.

FATE :

Today I wanna reflect....on where I am and how far I've come.

10 days ago...all I could do was cry...sing the poor me song, my life has gone so wrong...

I could only think of all the bad things that have happened to me,  and were yet to come, in disappointment.

I woke up today...with a since of relief...of being and of purpose.

Fate works in the funniest ways....things happen to either make you stronger or to help you find out who you are and what you are worth...not to anyone else...but to yourself.  You may not know it at the time, but when fate takes you where you are meant to be you will look back and smile...saying...now I get it.

I'm a HUGE believer of fate...even in my darkest hours I relied on the thought that fate would pull me through and take me where I need to go.

You can control your destiny as quotes will tell you and they also say...you can't wait for something great to happen you have to make it happen, another is, follow your dreams, and so on....these are all true enough but without fate...in yourself and others...where does that leave us....fate is about believing in something greater than ourselves...and in something beautiful.

Peace, Luck, Love & Laughter...xo

Day 10.

Today's post is short and sweet and needs no other explanation...


Never be bullied into silence.  Never allow yourself to be made a victim.  Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself.  ~Harvey Fierstein


Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 9.

There are a lot of people in my life these days...more than not...that could relate to these quotes of letting go and of forgiveness as well as myself...I found these quotes inspiring and have helped me to find some peace with those who have hurt me...I can let go and feel again...


There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they're necessary to reach the places we've chosen to go.
Richard Bach, in 'A Bridge Across Forever'

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.
-- Joseph Campbell

I can have peace of mind only when I forgive rather than judge.
Gerald Jampolsky

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
Ralph Waldo Emerson


and of course a quote from my favorite philosopher of all...

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Mohandas Gandhi

Here is a story I relate to very much...it helps me to realize why I am so drawn to a snowflake...those of you who know me know I have always loved snowflakes...please read this with some thought...relating it to your life

We have all heard that no two snowflakes are alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its journey. And while the universal force of gravity gives them a shared destination, the expansive space in the air gives each snowflake the opportunity to take their own path. They are on the same journey, but each takes a different path.

Along this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by wind... there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey.

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 8.

I'm creating a bucket list....not because I'm dying and not because I'm ill. It's because I believe everyone should have dreams, passions, goals and wants.  When I was younger...I had a list...it wasn't that large, but it was never completed non the less.  I gave up on myself and I gave up on my hopes, my dreams, and my ambitions.  I think it's the simple pleasures and wants and dreams we have in life that make us a huge part of who we are.  When someone says we can't it should be all the more reason to know we can.  I encourage you all to make your own list of hopes dreams and goals.  I also encourage you all to fill it with your wildest dreams...and acheive them...you can....if you follow your heart.

Here are a few of mine:

to deep sea dive

to travel to egypt

to ride in a hot air balloon

to have one of my photographs professionally published

to write a book

to learn to surf

...

and my list goes on...I will slowly check things off...some may be father forseen than others but I will get them done non the less

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 7.

I have a tattoo...it says "Find me courage, Give me strength"  I'm glad I have it on days like yesterday...Yesterday was a bit of a back pedal but in the end I ended up finding the courage and the strength and moved forward non the less.

Everyone is going to have days like my yesterday...the world cannot be a perfect place of beauty all the time...but referring back to my house of cards post....you have the ability to make it that way.  I wrote a lot of yesterday in the sky...its gone now...and my heart is clear.  I found two amazing little people to surround me and brighten my day...and my world became good again. 

Those amazing little people are my children. They are the inspiration for my post today.

As children we see the world as a wonderful place, ALL good, with nothing to hurt us and nothing to fear about the future.  Just happiness, imaginations and the odd amazing phenomenon of a rainbow.  Somewhere along the line of a child and an adult, this is lost. The world seems like a place of habitat and nothing else, full off people you pass every day, not knowing, caring, or seeing who they really are.  Children are curious...each discovery in the world takes hold of them   How grass grows, the largest tree they've ever seen, waterfalls, mountains, the sky, how clouds make shapes....when was the last time you laid on the ground looked up and found shapes in the clouds. Take time to embrace the beauty of a child find good in the world, find happiness in the simplest things in nature...enjoy what you are given...and breathe.....

Peace, Love, Luck & Happiness...xo

Day 6.

The ability to have feelings and express them in this world is AMAZING...just think...the human body reacts to pain by retracting, a death by tears, happiness with a smile and a great joke by laughter (I heard a great one today)  What a wonderful gift we were given to FEEL...

I truly believe writing is a good way to heal your soul.  It lets you release what you are feeling without holding it inside...

When things happen in your life you have two choices...you can choose to remember or you can choose to forgive/forget.  So I ask you...will you write your feelings on a stone...or in the sand.

I have had a lot of pain in my life...there are some people who have seen more...and some who have seen less.  I could live with resent for the people whose lives have been more blessed and hold onto the pain that others have caused me or I have caused myself...but why?  Why would I, and Why have I?  Why have I written these feelings in stone?  To keep always, never to be distroyed?

Today I choose to write those feelings and hurt in the sky where they will disappear and not be seen or thought of again...I will let them go with the wind. 

I will crush the stones I have written on and I will write them in the sand on the beach to be washed away by the waves never to be re-written.  I will clear my soul of the negative things that no longer make me who I am. 

The memories I treasure will remain on stones...on paper in pen and etched on my heart forever cherished.  Kept close and kept the positive to make a brighter life filled with only the best.

Where will you write your world...in stone...or in the sand...?

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 5.

I'm extremely excited about today's post.  Why you ask?? Well....today's positive and inspiration is ALL ME...that's right...no quotes and stories from other people...this one came from me...which means...I'm healing....my soul searching is leading me to find inner peace within myself and in life's everyday beauty.  It's only day 5 and I've had a break through.

So I'll begin what I've learned.

I was playing cards with my 3 year old son..."go fish" to be exact.  After we were finished, I thought, I haven\t built a house of cards in ages...so I started...

My first few attempts I couldn't even get a starting piece.  Then I figured to give a base to it that wasn't so slippery.  I layed cards flat on the table to give it that friction..simple enough solution right? 
I started to get the knack again, getting a few more pieces added each time before it fell again...I realized the more tense I got the harder it was getting....but I also realised how to acheive the best house was to add more cards to keep it sturdy.  So with deep calming breathes I started again.
I use to be soooo good at building them...several stories high really...but yesterday I couldn't even get two levels.  I may not have got the levels but...something hit me...as the house fell on my last attempt of the day. 

Here's what I learned.

Life is like a house of cards.  It truly is...It is fragile and needs strength to hold it together.  It can be grand and beautiful if you build it to be.  Sometimes, things happen to knock it down...some of these things could be uncontrolled like wind but others may be from someone damaging it, sometimes it's the slightest disturbance that breaks the house but impacts it just the same.
However it falls, with patience determination and strength you can rebuild it...you can choose the same structer or you can build it differently.  Some of the cards that held the house together before may not get placed in the house again but replaced with different cards that are equally as fitting.  You can choose the cards just as you can choose the people in your life.  Are they damaging the structure?  Or are they helping it to stand?  The most beauitful thing about life...and a house of cards...is you can add and take away cards as you please...you can choose to only use the good cards that will enhance your house and to avoid the ones that will help it fall before they are even placed in your structure.
My house of cards has fallen but I'm determind to build it with strong supporting walls, a strong core of family and friends, and more heart than ever before....some cards will not be used in my house again while others might be added again at a later time...the end result will be beautiful.

I hope this inspires you as much as it did me...try building one...you will see what I mean....life is full of simple pleasures...you just have to look...there's a lesson in every day.

Peace, Luck, Laughter & Love...xo

Day 4.

 

Music is what feelings sound like.  ~Author Unknown

 

Yesterday was a lonely day...and I started it off by listening to some pretty sad songs...but then I realized...

 

There's been times in my life, more often than not, when music takes over my mood.  It has a power over me that can change my way of thinking. As I am sure it does with most of you. For instance : A choice in song when you are sad can make you even more down in the dumps and a in that same moment of sadness an upbeat good memories song can make you happier and lift your spirits. 

So why as humans when we are sad and turn to music do we play sad songs that only bring us more tears? 

I'm changing that cycle in my life...today, tomorrow, and everyday...

"When your happy like a fool,

Let it take you over,

When everything is out,

You gotta take it in..."

I love the verse above from the song "Good Life" One Republic.  To me the whole entire song has great meaning...but that one verse really grabs hold and brings a smile to my face, enlightens my heart, and lifts my spirits.

Today...let music lift your soul...put on a great tune, throw on some dancing socks...think of me and..be happy like a fool...dancing around in your living room with the most important person in your life.....YOU.  Heck...even belt out a few chorus in an off tune...as long as it makes you happy.

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 3.

I wish you Enough...

I wish you enough is wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them

This is an insert from a short story I read yesterday...in life we always want more than what we have and have more than what we need...all we really need is enough...life would be so much more simplified this way. 

I will make sure that when I say my goodbyes or part ways I will remember to wish you enough...and to also wish it upon myself.

"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright, I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."

Peace , Luck, Love & Laughter...xo

Day 2.

Last night, while soul searching I read something very inspiring...Even though this does not apply to me right now as I am still healing and finding out what I am truly about, I know I will find this...one day...cherish it, and grasp tightly for as long as I live...

LOVE like this does exsists...I've seen it...heard it...and someday I hope to feel it wrapped around me.

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

-Bob Marley 

One day when I do find this...I hope to have it posted again...

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo

Day 1.

I first want to start by saying thank you for taking this journey with me.  As I grow I hope that some of you will grow with me.  Most of all I hope that ALL of you will find my stories and quotations nothing but inspiring. 

For Day 1 Entry...I want to share with you the quote that got me through the day...it was posted by a good friend of mine and helped me to start on this journey with open arms.  It goes as follows:

If you’re feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty, allow it to lead you places. Be brave, as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path towards happiness. Don’t waste time with regret. Spin ...wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment as it comes, because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart…where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again...

These words I WILL live by everyday...until my heart and soul are healed...and even there after

In the words of a very wise women mentor in my life (and I will end every post this way) :

Love Luck and Laughter...xo 

(I think I'll add peace to that phrase)

Peace, Love, Luck & Laughter...xo 

yes, that works together beautifully :)